Still maintaining your own individuality does not make you a bad mother any more than it does a bad wife. You were your own person, living your own destiny in this incarnation before you became a wife or a parent. You have your own purpose and that means you have something important to contribute to the world as an individual. You didn’t come into this life in those roles, they are just the ones you are filling at this time. You need to be your own person and do it in the unique style that is all your own. In all the world, you are the ONLY you. Don’t ever feel you need to morph into someone else to make anybody else happy.